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You Can Run Away from Your Quarter-Life Crisis

Running away is for cowards. They say.

For the gutless, the faint hearted, the fearful. They say.

They got it all wrong.

You can run away from your Quarter-Life Crisis. And it is okay to do it.

Those who are too afraid to run, will say it is cowardly. But those who do run know better.

Still, being full of fear being and afraid of leaving, but maybe you are more afraid of living a life that doesn’t belong to you. A life that doesn’t fill each one of your cells in your entire being with love and joy, and passion. In the end, you realise that the simple of act of choosing for yourself can set you free. The choice of running, despite being fuelled with fear, was still your choice.  Rather than staying for someone else, you ran away for yourself. That is a mark of great courage.

Running away means you are willing to accept absolutely anything aside from this current situation. Running away says that regardless of what happens or becomes of you. It is still better than living a life that doesn’t fill you, a life that doesn’t make you happy or make you grow into the best version of yourself. It means that any change, is a good change.  It means you know there’s more out there and so you go for it. You run.

Leave it all behind – the job, the friends and family, the condo, the boyfriend/girlfriend, all the stuff -the makeup, the clothes, the jewellery, the dinner parties, the lattes. The things we’ve been taught to think matters.

Choose to run.

At least you’re choosing right?

You’re making a decision for yourself. You’re not letting fear keep you still, stagnant, stationary or maybe fear is making you move. Running away out of fear. Is better than staying still out of fear. Isn’t it? It’s better for the simple reason that when you distance yourself from everything that is familiar to you, there is only you. You are no longer defined by who your friends are, what your job is, the car you drive, the clothes you wear. All these superficial things are removed, and all that is left, is you, and your soul in a new environment.

But remember you need to run. Don’t walk.

Your Quarter-Life Crisis didn’t happen overnight, and navigating your way out of it won’t happen overnight either. But there’s that tension between who you are being called to be, who you want to be and what the rest of the world is telling you to do.

Walking is slowly increasing the distance between yourself and your environment. Walk, and you give yourself the luxury of turning around.

Running can heal you. Instead of seeing everything around you, in excruciating detail, everything that is wrong with your life. You run and it all somehow becomes a blur, you can’t be worried about everything that’s wrong, you have to focus 100% on moving forward. You need to fully focus on where each step is taken. To look back, is to stumble. To run, is to move toward the rest of the world. Toward love, beauty, joy, peace.

Running sets your soul on fire. Do you want to feel alive, feel that thrill? Running for it’s own sake. For movement, for growth, for change. Movement is not the means to some vague end point. It is the end. Change is the ultimate means and end. It is everything your heart needs.

Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth.

We are happy when we are growing. – W.B. Yeats 

It still takes courage to run away. And you can run out of fear. That’s all right. Remember that once you’ve gone far enough. Moved enough. Once you’re ready. Once you’ve found home inside you’ve been searching.

Then it is time to run home.

Wherever that may be.

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